The I Kissed a Boy heartthrob is back with more unfiltered advice for your queer dilemmas
Every month, Adam dives headfirst into your messiest, juiciest, and most relatable LGBTQ+ life dramas. From dodgy dates to office allies who try a bit too hard, nothing’s off limits. Here’s what landed in his inbox this month…
Situationship Season
“I’ve been seeing someone for three months. We go on dates, text all day, and I’ve even met their dog, but they still call me their ‘mate’. Am I delusional, or just stuck in September?”
Adam says:
Girlie, you definitely haven’t had the conversation yet. Time to set some boundaries and be straight with them. You might be surprised by the answer. Honestly, it sounds like you’re already in a relationship, you just haven’t slapped a label on it.
Queer Venue Guilt
“My best friend keeps dragging me to straight bars because the drinks are cheaper, but I feel like I’m betraying the queer scene. Should I chill out or stay loyal to our spaces?”
Adam says:
You’re not overreacting. Queer spaces matter. They’re more than cheap vodka and cola. They’re about safety, community, and feeling seen. Sack off the straight bar and go where you actually feel at home.
The Office Ally Overload
“I came out at work last month and now my colleague says ‘Yas queen!’ every time I do anything. How do I thank her for being supportive without living in RuPaul’s Werkroom?”
Adam says:
One word: ew. Loads of us have dealt with this. It usually comes from a good place, but we’re not walking glitter cannons for your entertainment. Have a gentle but honest word about how that kind of language makes you feel.
The Autumn Glow-Up
“My ex just posted a thirst trap in a pumpkin patch and it’s ruining my emotional recovery. How do I stop stalking their stories and get my power back?”
Adam says:
If Halloween wasn’t scary enough, enter your ex. Block them. Everywhere. There are plenty more pumpkins in the patch… if that’s how the saying goes.
Family Friction (Part Two)
“My parents are ‘fine’ with me being gay… as long as I don’t mention dating, sex, or, well, men. How do I push the convo forward without starting World War III at Sunday lunch?”
Adam says:
Older generations can be touchy, so pick your battles, but remind them that silence isn’t acceptance. You’re not causing a war, you’re helping them understand you better.
Got a dilemma for Adam?
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