1. New Year, Old Ex
Q: “I kissed my ex at midnight on New Year’s Eve. We’d both had prosecco and unresolved feelings. Is this a sign for 2025, or should I pretend it never happened and block them before the hangover fades?”
Adam: It’s not a sign. It’s alcohol, nostalgia, and poor lighting. If it was going to work out the first time, then it would have. Let it be a messy New Year’s footnote, not a sequel. 2026 is for new beginnings!
2. Resolution Reality Check
Q: “I vowed to stop hooking up with emotionally unavailable men this year. It’s now January, and I’ve already broken it twice. Do I need better resolutions, or better taste?”
Adam: January hookups aren’t moral failures; they’re research. If you keep choosing the same men in different fonts, that’s not bad taste; it’s a pattern you refuse to unsubscribe from. Growth isn’t never doing it again – it’s doing it with full awareness, zero delusion, and an exit plan
3. Dry January, Damp Libido
Q: “I’m doing Dry January and suddenly realised booze was my entire personality and flirting strategy. How do I pull without wine, cocktails or ‘just one’?”
Adam: First of all, congratulations on discovering you’re charming without alcohol! I’m a fellow sober gay, and what I’ve learned is that there’s nothing more authentic than living a sober life. Take it at your own pace, but remember – people were flirting long before cocktails were invented. You’ve got this!
4. Gym January Panic
Q: “I’ve joined the gym as part of my New Year glow-up, but it’s full of intimidating gays who already look incredible. How do I survive January without comparing myself into oblivion?”
Adam: January gyms are a horror film. No one’s watching you – you’d be surprised how intimidating the muscly gays actually feel in gyms. Show up, move your body, and leave before spiralling. And if gyms aren’t your vibe, London has great LGBTQ+ workout groups like London Frontrunners or Out2Run, where it’s about community, not comparison.
5. Family New Year Interrogation
Q: “Every January, my family asks if I’m ‘seeing anyone yet’ like it’s a KPI for adulthood. How do I shut down the questioning without causing a roast-dinner cold war?”
Adam: Oh, honey, this is peak January energy. I just smile, sip my drink, and hit them with: “Focusing on myself this year – it’s very busy.” Vague, true, unbothered – they can’t argue with it without starting a roast-dinner civil war, and you stay sane.
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