We all want to be great in bed, or at least seen that way. To be honest, most already are! It’s just your confidence that could be lacking.
ESMale, the adult store for men, is often a part of many people’s adult journey and provides its customers with a lot of knowledge. They want to share some of it with you, hoping that it helps more than just losing your inhibition, by using poppers.
There are so many areas we can focus on, but this article is all about tips or tricks for bottoms, and as a gay sex shop ESMale has plenty, so here goes!
Bottom like a pro.
There is not much more enjoyable than being free in your mind, seeing the other guy having a great time whilst enjoying being at the receiving end of some anal fun. To achieve this there are a few things you can do.
- Douching: to get to the free mindset the first thing we would suggest is to have an anal douche. This will clean your rear end, so you don’t have to worry about any “situations”. A high-fibre diet or probiotic supplements are great for the natural digestive process and will do most of the cleaning for you.
- Breathing and Relaxing: this sounds easy but not always is. The idea is that you relax into the session. Do not think about anything other than what is happening in the moment and continue to breathe as normally as you can. Sure, when things get heated normal breathing is off the table but in general try to ease your breathing and lean into the pattern of the motion. When you are fully in the moment relaxed and comfortable it will allow you to completely give yourself and enjoy the action. Try and connect with your sexual partner through eye contact and verbal communication so you can get lost in each other.
- Preparation: apart from having an anal douche there are other ways to prepare. Make sure you have some great anal lube and if you are a fan, a bottle of liquid gold or other poppers. A good lube helps with a smoother and less painful entrance. There are also numbing lubes that can help with this even further. Another thing that will help a pain-free experience is to loosen up before you start your play. You can use a small butt plug, dildo, or even your finger in anticipation of the real thing. All this will contribute to peace of mind so you can just focus on your man and the fun that is about to start.
- Pelvic movement: this one is simple; by rotating your hips you can provide better access. You can arch your back if the man is behind you, this allows him to go deeper as well as having a better angle. If you are in a missionary position having a pillow under your bum works great for the same reasons. You will take naturally to what movement to make in which positions. You might also find that the guy will direct you, which can be a turn-on in itself.
- Communication: ever been in that position where you just think, I wish he was doing this or that, communicate! Before, during and after it is totally fine if you voice what you like. After all, none of us are mind readers. A good dialogue might also introduce you to new things. Your counterpart might suggest something you have never tried, and you might end up loving it. Or not and then it is just a lesson learned. Try and be light about it all, you are there to have a good time so just laugh off anything that does not work. The more you share the more you will connect and hopefully have an amazingly intense experience.
It will help if you approach everything with a fun and positive attitude. You’re about to have fun and enjoy an intimate experience with another person. It’s OK if not everything goes to plan, you can giggle about it afterwards. Try to go with the flow, stay connected, and then the rest should come automatically. You will notice from each other what is working and what’s not.
We hope this has been useful but if you have more questions feel free to contact us.
We have a great group of people happy to help you on your way to hopefully many great adult sessions! To have a look at the products mentioned in this article please visit the following stores.
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Until next time!
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