He was the cherubic straight-shooter who won the nation’s hearts in this year’s series of I Kissed A Boy, now he’s answering your burning queer quandaries on our back page – take it away, Adam!
The Flatmate’s New Boyfriend Problem
“My flatmate’s new boyfriend keeps wandering around our place shirtless and calling me ‘bro’. I can’t tell if he’s flirting or just straight with confidence issues. How do I get some clarity without causing a domestic?”
Adam: Oh girl, he is off limits, let’s not play a game that you aren’t going to win.
The Hinge Identity Crisis
“I’ve matched with the same guy on Hinge three separate times because he keeps deleting and reappearing. Is this a red flag, or is he just chronically indecisive like the rest of us gays?”
Adam: It’s not a red flag — it’s a pink caution ribbon. Proceed, but with awareness, but from my experience, if people want to make something happen, it would! Good luck, it’s rough out there!
Queer Club Night Conundrum
“I always go out with my friends, but the second we hit the dancefloor, they vanish into the smoking area for hours. How do I stop spending every night out dancing solo like a lost NPC?”
Adam: If you’re constantly feeling left behind, it might be time to mix in people who actually like the same part of the night out as you. Your crew doesn’t have to change — but you can expand your circle. You don’t need to start a fight or become the nightclub’s saddest side quest character. Good communication will get you further than passive frustration every time.
The Pronoun Pin Panic
“I met someone cute at a queer meetup, but I’m terrified of messing up their pronouns. How do I ask without feeling like an idiot or coming across as overly earnest?”
Adam: Slip it in early, like you’re asking their name again to double-check. Also, don’t be worried about messing it up at first, that’s how we learn!
The Ex-Fling Friendship Request
“A guy I casually hooked up with over the summer wants to ‘just be friends’ now. Is this a trap, a tease, or a genuine offer? And is it ever a good idea?”
Adam: ‘Let’s just be friends” can mean wildly different things. My advice would be to make sure there are boundaries that work for both of you, otherwise it’s going to get messy.
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